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How Do You Make Time For Yourself?

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Being a mother, a daughter, a sister, a professional and a friend can be very stressful. How often have you found yourself saying, "I wish I had more hours in the day" or "I wish I had a moment  for myself". As parents, we all find ourselves wishing we had more hours during the day and time for ourselves. I lead a very busy life and I never seem to have time for myself. It's not easy being a single mother who has to juggle working a full time job, attending college courses, maintaining a household, returning phone calls, caring for and giving attention to my two daughters and significant other. The only time I can get at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted "me time" is when I take my bath. Lately, this has been impossible. Creating more "me time" is not at the top of my to do list, but it is on my to do list. 

There are times when I get "a break" but I do not consider it "a break". Reason being is, during this time I am usually doing something around the house or running errands that involves picking up or items for my girls or family members. My life is so involved in doing things and spending time with other people that when I do have a moment, a true moment for myself most of the time I have no idea what to do. If I do find something to entertain myself or just relax and unwind I often feel guilty. There are several adjustments I need to make in my life so I can have some "me time".  During my train ride I made a mental note to do the following: 
  • prioritize my responsibilities
  • make myself a priority
  • realize my happiness is equally important 
  • give to myself just as much as I give to others
  • learn to say no
  • add myself to my calendar
  • stop and smell the roses
  • relax, relate, release (don't forget the glass /bottle of wine)

I know that I deserve time for myself. I realize I also need this time. I crave this time so I will not feel overwhelmed, frustrated and excessively tired. This "me time" would allow me to reconnect with myself .

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Have you placed yourself on your priority list? How have you made more time for yourself?

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