Dear Diary: My Life Raising Brown Girls

  Being Known Beyond Motherhood   Scripture:   “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–10   Reflection:  Motherhood can quietly narrow your world. Conversations become practical. Relationships shift. Time feels scarce. Even when surrounded by people, it’s possible to feel deeply alone.   You may miss being known for who you are—not just for what you do or who you care for. You may long for connection and, at the same time, crave solitude because you are already so poured out.   God does not call us to constant togetherness or constant isolation. He invites us into rhythm—friendship that supports, solitude that restores, and spiritual community that reminds us we belong.   You were never meant to carry life alone.   Wellness Insight:   Emotional wellness is deeply tied to connection. Safe relation...

Relearning How to Care for What God Calls Holy  Scripture: “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?” — 1 Corinthians 6:19 Reflection:  Motherhood can change the way you relate to your body. What once felt personal can begin to feel functional—something to manage, push through, or ignore so you can keep going. Your body becomes a means to an end. A tool for caregiving. A place you inhabit but no longer tend to. Yet Scripture reminds us that your body has never lost its sacredness. It is not valuable because of what it can produce or endure. It is holy because God chose to dwell there. Your body does not need to be fixed before it is honored. It needs to be listened to, rested, and cared for with kindness.   Wellness Insight: When we override hunger, exhaustion, pain, or emotional cues, the body learns it is not safe to speak. Over time, this can lead to disconnection and burnout. Wellness ...

  Tending to the Heart God Entrusted to You Scripture:   “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23   Reflection:  Sacrifice is often celebrated in motherhood. We praise endurance, selflessness, and the ability to keep going no matter the cost. But over time, constant sacrifice can quietly teach you to ignore your own inner world.   You learn to push past your feelings. You learn to minimize your needs. You learn to survive without being tended to.   Yet God does not ask you to disappear in order to love well. Beneath the responsibilities and routines is still a woman with a heart that feels, hopes, grieves, and longs to be cared for—not corrected, not rushed, but gently healed.   Healing does not mean something is wrong with you. It means something precious has been carrying too much for too long.   Wellness Insight:   Emotional pain that goes unacknowledged do...

  Making Room for Desire Without Shame   Scripture:   “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” — Psalm 37:4   Reflection:  There is a particular kind of guilt that surfaces when you begin to want more; not more things, but more space, more meaning, more life. It often arrives quietly, wrapped in questions like: Shouldn’t I be content? or Is it wrong to want something for myself?   Many women learn to associate goodness with self-denial. Over time, desire becomes something to suppress rather than listen to. But Scripture does not treat desire as something sinful by default. God speaks of desire as something shaped in relationship with Him; not erased, but refined.   Wanting more does not mean you are ungrateful. It does not mean you love your family less. It often means you are still alive to the life God placed within you.   Grace meets you right there.   Wellness Insight: ...

Noticing the Quiet Erosion of Wholeness   Scripture:  “Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.’”— Mark 6:31 Reflection:  Caregiving often begins as an act of love. Over time, it can quietly become a way of life where your needs are always secondary, postponed, or ignored altogether. At first, this feels normal—even noble. But slowly, something shifts. You stop noticing how tired you are. You stop asking what you need. You learn to function without checking in with yourself, believing that this is simply what faithfulness looks like.   Yet even Jesus noticed when the giving became too much. He saw the exhaustion. He named the need. He called His disciples away—not because they failed, but because they were human. Care that costs you yourself is not the goal. Wholeness is.   Wellness Insight:   When careg...

Remembering Your Identity Beyond Roles   Scripture: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” — Isaiah 43:1   Reflection:  Before motherhood, before the sleepless nights, before the endless tasks and responsibilities, you were known. You were loved. You were God’s. Motherhood is sacred and life-changing, but it can also quietly blur our sense of self. Over time, it’s easy to measure your value by what you do; diapers changed, meals prepared, schedules kept. And while  these acts of love are meaningful, they are not the totality of who you are.   God calls you first and foremost by your name, not your role. You are His beloved daughter, fearfully and wonderfully made. This week, we begin by remembering that identity. The part of you that exists beyond caregiving, beyond tasks, beyond roles.   Wellness Insight: Wellness begins with presence and awareness. When you recognize that your worth is not ti...